“So, if you have a baby there is a 50% chance, they will have a heart defect. And you will die giving birth due to the pressure that will be on your heart” A quote from my Cardiologist.

This is Zaya in this post I will be talking about my reproductive rights.

Deep Void

After my doctor told me I could not have kids due to my heart problems. I started to collect stuffed animals to fill that deep void inside of me that could only be filled with children. Because as a woman it is our destiny to have children and be a mother. If we do not have children, we would feel unfulfilled with our lives as society tell us. While I was falling for that load of garbage. My mom started to tell me not to have sex. She feared I might make the same mistakes as her and have unprotected sex with a loser guy and have two kids by him before I was eighteen. And have more kids after thirty-two.  She feared that I might die from childbirth and wasted 20 something years of her life raising me.

Childless Future

After I got over my pity party and accepted the fact, I cannot have kids. I thought of a what childless future was. Because my brother had kids, and everybody around me had kids. Seeing how many kids my mom had. I Google what kind of birth control was offered and where to get condoms because having conversation with my mom about birth control would be awkward. She has seven kids, ages ranging from 11-30 due to her beliefs. I have had conversation with my peers about birth control as well as with my sister in law who has the implant in her arm. She is a working woman with two kids that are now in school and she does not want to start all over again.

Planned Parenthood

I remember going to Planned Parenthood that one day in March, because I wanted to have sex with boyfriend and not get pregnant. We both agree we did not want children due to our health problems. So, I decided to take the pill for extra safety. The pill is 91 % effective while condoms are 98% effective, if used properly. The pill helped regulate my period and my acne I went to Planned Parenthood because I did not know where to get birth control from and it was a safe place for me to get birth control without getting look down upon. There are some women who need birth control to help with severe cramps, to regulate periods, manage endometriosis, hormonal acne, and much more.

Covid 19

It is 2020 I have now switched over to the Nuva Ring due to my inside move and making me curl up into a ball.  Roman has just turned twenty-one years old, but thanks to Covid 19 he could not get snipped. Vasectomy are elective surgery. I have to continue with this journey with trying different birth controls due me being to young to get my uterus removed. National Women’s Health Network says, “Technically, any woman of legal age can consent to the procedure, but it should be medically justified. It’s incredibly unlikely that a doctor will perform a hysterectomy on women ages 18-35 unless it is absolutely necessary for their well-being and no other options will suffice.” [1] Doctors believe that women cannot make this life changing decision at eighteen because we “change our minds all the time”. Yet men can get snipped at the age of twenty- one without no question asked. I need to have a medical condition to get my uterus taken out. Can my excuse be, I don’t want to die?

           Trump

Ever since Trump has been in office he has been trying to banned women productive rights and overturn Roe vs Wade an icon case that has helped women all over the United States that still have this act in place to get an abortion. This year Trump has nominated Amy Coney Barrett to take over Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg place. If Amy gets accepted as a Justice. Her and Trump will overturn Roe vs Wade. I will die as well as millions of other women from pregnancy if abortions are made illegal.

 

[1]“At What Age Can I Get A Hysterectomy.” NWHN, 22 May 2017, www.nwhn.org/age-can-get-hysterectomy/.

Heart Picture “Knowing the Symptoms of A Congenital Heart Defect.” WTXL, WTXL, 24 Aug. 2015, www.wtxl.com/news/knowing-the-symptoms-of-a-congenital-heart-defect/article_bc8c3706-4a2f-11e5-853d-0f2fd7cc868f.html.

Road Picture Seals, Danny. “The Future of L&D: Two Key Drivers to Propel the Sector Forward in 2020 and Beyond.” TrainingZone, 24 Feb. 2020, www.trainingzone.co.uk/lead/strategy/the-future-of-ld-two-key-drivers-to-propel-the-sector-forward-in-2020-and-beyond.

Planned Parenthood picture Scrippsvoice. “Planned Parenthood.” The Scripps Voice, 2 Nov. 2018, scrippsvoice.com/planned-parenthood/.

Uterus Picture “My Uterus My Choice by Bubbsnugg.” TeePublic, www.teepublic.com/sticker/480541-my-uterus-my-choice.

Trump Picture Administrator, jamestownsun. “On Trump’s 2nd Day, Thousands of Women to March in D.C. in Protest.” Jamestown Sun, Jamestown Sun, 21 Jan. 2017, www.jamestownsun.com/news/4203468-trumps-2nd-day-thousands-women-march-dc-protest.